She's very defensive about it, and at this point in time I have no idea how to even bring it up without her trying to think i'm blaming our entire situation on depression.
Definitely avoid anything that hints of blaming the situation on depression, it won't help you and it won't help her either. Separate the situation and the depression in your mind. Do you think she might be at risk of harming herself? If so, then you need to figure out a way to get help.
If not, then you might be able to figure out a way to get her to seek treatment but it sounds like it would be hard if she's defensive. And it's hard to do this without coming across as pushing. Speak to your doctor or have a look around online for how to address this.
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.
