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[Closer2]

I finished DR yesterday. I moved my focus to DR while about 1/2 way through DB. DR has been very helpful and I understand much more about the potential state of mind she is/has been in.

I do have a couple of questions regarding the 180 and sandi2's rules. Due to my detaching from the marriage a few years ago, is a 180 for me taking more of an interest in her, the kids, the family?

Over the past view weeks I have been much more involved with the kids and with my W. Sometimes the involvement with my W leads to sex or just sitting in bed talking. She frequently tells me that she is proud of these changes and feels that it will help our future relationship as a divorced couple and any future relationships with a significant other.

I have stopped planning dates, I only include her in activities with the kids. She even suggested that we spend V-day together. However, just when I feel that progress is being made, she will shut down and push me away. It's frustrating for me to feel that I am having some small successes, only to have her start talking about a future apart.

Today she met with her attorney to draft the final decree.

I think it's time to do another 180 and definitely focus only on the kids and myself.

I have learned a lot from reading DR and making way through DB. I have also gained so much knowledge from these forums. I wish I had discovered these books and forum BEFORE I was married.