Ganb8te 4 - Putting on my giraffe ears

[Barrybran]

Thanks, Barrybran, Jim and Toots.

I feel that any interest from your husband would be a positive for you.
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Have you ever just checked in with him outside of birthdays and holidays to see how he's doing? Not exactly DB but not speaking to each other for 2-3 months at a time isn't really working.

What did you mean by that first sentence, Barrybran? No I have't just checked in - as it's not DB as you say. Also a bit tough to see how to work it. Just calling him out of the blue after all this time would seem weird, no? Feel like I need a reason to call at this point.

Most people here have frequent interactions with their spouses so they can assess mood changes, frequency of communication, etc. You don't hear from your husband for 2-3 months at a time. If you heard from him more often you'd have something to work with.

I'm not suggesting that you do contact him but there have been situations where a little pursuit paid dividends. Everyone is different. As the saying goes, do what works.