Complex #4 - D talk started / Detaching continues

[shodan]

I cannot say enough about the value of GAL and Detaching. It is so hard to do, but when you do it, you will feel better and be more positive. And your W may find you more attractive but she also may be gone forever. If that is the case, do you want to spend the next 6-12 months pining away for her? Or would you rather get on with your life?

Re: NC/detachment vs. being positive. They are not mutually exclusive. When you are around her, you are strong and positive. You are confident. You are happy, which is hard to be in your situation. But, as you GAL and Detach, you will become happier. You will become more positive.

You need to focus on your heart and spirit. You cannot change her and her emotions. There is nothing that you need from her to be whole. You are loved and worthy, not by your W but by life, the universe, God and everyone around you.