Complex #4 - D talk started / Detaching continues

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I'm glad I asked the question the way I did because I needed this kick in the groin again. I did read DR, but the parts about last resort and after last resort tecniques are short.
But actually I was more wondering about what NC is actually doing. It does feel counterproductive bc since NC wife is pulling away more and more. Starsky said it before, W will notice changes for the simple fact that she's a woman and they do this kind of stuff well. But since a month now things are getting worse and worse so I'd rather have some sort of communication and be uplifting but detached. I suppose I'm very impatient. Wife will NOT wonder that I'm not crying and pledging and moving on, she'll just feel more comfortable about her actions. And she'll be happy to see me more happy. But this is not going to cause anything directly. It only implies the chance of a fresh start after a lot of personal growth. But since OM is in the pic somewhere this obstacle is very very hard to conquer.

Ok enough of that because I made good detaching progress...and I started picturing a life without her. It's in front of my eyes.