So I am divorced.

[mahhhty]

Definitely need some help on responding to her. Perhaps I should just ignore it. Or state please use the original schedule. However, below is my rant response. Which I probably shouldn't send.

"We were good parents b/c we collaborated on our parenting style and approach. We worked together. I would like to be able to collaborate on the schedule, without this level of reactivity and defensiveness. Your statement is hurtful, I do not understand your motivation for saying such a thing. As you know the time we get to spend with the kids is the most important thing and something we look forward to always.

My vacation day is Friday, and therefore, the change I proposed I would lose a full day with the kids, also I wouldn't get to see them on Saturday and none of that time would be made up. That was a compromise. You were obviously okay with the original schedule as you published it, if you don't find value in the change I proposed simply state that.

We have signed the paperwork, we have closed on the house, I have done all that you have wanted. Yet this remains, perhaps it is too soon to be nonreactive. I do not know your motivation to say such things. I do not understand your anger. When you are ready to tell me about all the fuel in your fire, I am ready to listen."