All through your stitch you have been too afraid to let go. In the process, you held a tight grip on her. I think the best thing to do now is to really let go of her. You don't need to tell her you are letting go, okay? She will know if you do.
That would be me, too afraid to let go. Even right now I spend my nights reading relationship books. I am killing myself emotionally. I need to stop looking for her reactions and just move on.
This will be hard and take practice, but the first thing I think I need to do is stop reading books and just relax for a while. Take a break from trying to DB the M and let go.
It is making me teary to write this, but I know that it is what I have to do. I need to change my perception that letting go is not the same as giving up. When I started to DB I knew I would do every thing I possibly could to work on the M. This makes letting go HARD.
It is scary to think that "if you love it set it free, if it returns it truly loves you."
I am really going to miss her.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
