Ganb8te 4 - Putting on my giraffe ears

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Thanks, Barrybran, Jim and Toots.

I feel that any interest from your husband would be a positive for you.
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Have you ever just checked in with him outside of birthdays and holidays to see how he's doing? Not exactly DB but not speaking to each other for 2-3 months at a time isn't really working.

What did you mean by that first sentence, Barrybran? No I have't just checked in - as it's not DB as you say. Also a bit tough to see how to work it. Just calling him out of the blue after all this time would seem weird, no? Feel like I need a reason to call at this point.

I'm reading your recent posts with interest as your sitch is similar to mine in some aspects.

I am 2/3 through reading your sitch, Toots, and the similarities did strike me. There may well be an OW in my sitch, but I have no evidence and I am not snooping. If I did know about OW then I would set a boundary and not interact with H - so not knowing makes it challenging in someways as I don't know whether to try to get a bit more interaction going or not.