One way of looking at things that has really helped frame things for me is everytime I get frustrated trying to "let it go" I replace that thinking with "let it be"
Logically I was forcing myself to try to let go when I wasn't ready and acceptance felt like I was condoning the behavior. Now I just keep saying to "let it be" and that seems to quell my mind and my heart enough to step back.
I guess we all have our coping devices. Unfortunately a person in MLC doesn't seem to care who they hurt or what they destroy while they cope in their own lives.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
