To your idea about coming home late, I like the message that our home is not a hotel but as she is co-owner of the home she has already told me (and she is correct by law) that she can come and go as she pleases and if I tell her what to do, I am controlling.
Go read what I wrote today on this subject on PeterV's thread on the Infidelity forum here. This is standard wayward B.S. SCRIPT.