To your idea about coming home late, I like the message that our home is not a hotel but as she is co-owner of the home she has already told me (and she is correct by law) that she can come and go as she pleases and if I tell her what to do, I am controlling.
So what. So was my wife. Is she going to take legal action against you? Notice I never changed my locks, but I DID fire a shot across my wife's bow.
If your wife says this, say "You do what you feel you need to do, and I will do whatever I need to do to keep a safe and secure home for our daughter. I'm done talking about it."
Or you can just skip the saying ANYTHING, and the next time she does it, lock down everything dark and tight.
And YES, by all means, I would stop doing her laundry. Why do you do her laundry???
