Seperated and she is with someone - I'm desperate

[vdubber]

Hi Wet. No my W doesn't have any influences in her life to my knowledge that are helping her see things clearly. Her friends and OM are from the bar she frequents and are all supportive of her new lifestyle. She said we are divorced and i can file if i need the piece of paper. I know she has to go down her path and find things out for herself but I don't think she understands what it is doing to her relationship with her older kids S18 and D22. She clearly feels she can not have independent thought and feeling with me in her life and I feel she is so in trenches with these friends and influences in her life that she could never get out of it.

sad as I love her and always will. I wish she could stop seeing me as the enemy..as an obstacle for her and realize what I and our family mean to her. How long does a MLC last as it's been 3 years. She has formed a new life with all new friends and there are very few traces of her old life and self anymore.

I want to have hope but I also need to be realistic that her values and morals have changed. It used to be even a couple months ago that she would text me and tell me she was depressed or to come over and just lay beside her..etc. now any troubles or needs she has are being handled elsewhere. She used to tell a mutual friend I deserved better than her...almost like she was punishing herself and forcing further down this path to force me to break free and find someone else. I want to have hope, I'm hoping others can somehow see a shred of hope in my story as I'm feeling very discouraged.