FWIW -- her behavior last night and this morning towards me -- after all of these new revelations -- has been what I consider "gentle"... No monster... She has avoided eye contact, but she has been almost like her old self when speaking to me (tone of voice) just without the love and affection. The only exception to this was when she said goodnight to me last night -- but saying that to me every night seems to really be a struggle for her since BD.
Last night after she told me goodnight and left our room, she sent me a text message a few minutes later asking how our D5 was feeling (the one who has been sick). I gave her an update and we exchanged a few very nice TMs about the situation and our concern for D5.
So a definite and noticeable change in behavior. No, I am not interpreting this as a sign that she is going to come home tonight and tell me that she's made a horrible mistake and wants to now work on things... But I do notice a change in behavior which means something yesterday has impacted her in some way which has, at least for now, diminished monster -- and that is the opposite of what I expected when I made the decision to gently confront her about the trip and ask for the honesty.
Not really sure how to interpret the change in behavior... so for now I'm just taking note of it and noting the interactions/conversations we had yesterday which led to the change in behavior.
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
