It's most likely a "moving target" thing (where, if you fulfill her request, she'll only replace it with another request), but you should apologize and own it. "You're right, I should have consulted you on that. I will going forward."
Well this was one of the deal breakers for her a year and a half ago, that we would discuss something and make a decision and then when the time came I would change it. But the only incidents that I can recall of doing that involved details about a renovation where I changed the specs, one was a change based on not following the approved drawings and the other was that I didn't really listen to her opinion on a safety issue, but I corrected both. But at the time I was making these decisions she was already having an EA and even possibly a PA with OM, so I think it was overblown to justify her actions and now she harps on those issues saying I did it all the time. I don't really want to go there and argue that it was only two times and ask her for other examples which I could probably explain away, but that's like pi$$ing in the wind. I won't get covered in pi$$ if I do a 180 and just turn away. But she's using those past incidents to fuel her anger that my unilateral decision to hire staff to replace me at the RH just shows her that I haven't changed and I don't respect her.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
