Train...I was applying it to the cheeseless tunnel thought. Old me would bring it up and that would lead to a fight....do the 180 I thought of was to pretend it didn't bug me. Dr says to ignore the op for example...
Any counselor who was trying to coach me and my wife through infidelity, and who told me "just ignore the other person in your marriage," would find themselves not my counselor anymore.
Are you sure they weren't saying "Don't keep bringing it up" instead? Because I would AGREE not to constantly TALK about it . . . rather, let your ACTIONS demonstrate to your wife what your stance is towards a 3rd person in your marriage. But IGNORE it?? Ehhh . . . no.
