So W has stated boundaries that she needs to be involved in decisions about her business. I overstep those boundaries by hiring someone to replace me on the night shifts.
But I have boundaries that I won't be denied being in my own home and she overstepped that one.
I guess I could have waited until she got back from vacation and then discussed it, saying I have a solution to the night shifts and I want to move back home. She was most upset that I made the arrangements when she was away. Or maybe she's just saying that and really doesn't want me staking claim to the marital home.
It's most likely a "moving target" thing (where, if you fulfill her request, she'll only replace it with another request), but you should apologize and own it. "You're right, I should have consulted you on that. I will going forward."
