You have to stop looking at stuff. Easier said than done but you are just causing yourself more pain by doing so. I found something last week when I wasn't even snooping that kicked me in the stomach and it wasn't even that bad. I know some people on here have found sexual imagery, texts even audio. Im not sure I could stomach that. Could you? Just presume she is with OM. You don't need to know any more than that. It doesn't make a difference in what you need to do which is detach. Let go. Im still struggling as my wife just drags me back in.
As far as moving out, most say no way and I can see why. for me I have no choice as I cant afford to stay on my own. Me not being here though is the consequences she will see from her actions and as im the one who does 90% of all household jobs then this is what she will have to deal with. House is already a bomb site because ive stopped picking up after her. Add to that our D8 asking why im not here and when am I coming home, financial burden, friendship, moral support, care for D8 then it all starts adding up.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
