Sorry I missed this. I am just trying to shut my mouth and pay attention. I know I use to cut her off and offer solutions so just not doing that I think is good for now.
Yes, just keeping your mouth shut can be a big step. I may have already said this, but women want to talk out their stress. They are not expecting the H to give solutions. In fact, it makes some women angry when the H jumps into the conversation and tells her how to fix what's wrong......and then he's done and goes on. That is frustrating for her. She just wants you to hear her out, without telling her what to do. Unless she specifically ask for your opinion or help.
I think your W may be looking for an escape. It sounds as if she was overwhelmed with a little reality that it was not going to be as easy to walk away and get an apartment as she thought.
She will have times like this where she seems torn.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
