Ganb8te 4 - Putting on my giraffe ears

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I feel the need to give a GAL report first so that my subsequent comments don't look like I'm fussing too much over H:
- spent last weekend on family farm
- Monday night - yoga
- Tonight - met with 3 random people with a view for forming a team for Oxfam Trailwalker (100km in 48hrs, August). Scheduled a couple of training walks. Bonus yoga after that
- Tomorrow night - yoga
- Thurs - dinner for work
- Fri - trivia with new people from work
- Weekend friends coming over and hopefully yoga workshop
- Booked trip to London + Amsterdam for much of March (holiday + conference)

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So, DB buddies. Right now I feel like I am only applying a fraction of DR, namely LRT. I've stopped the chase (pretty much went cold turkey since June 2014), I've got a life (see above) and I am waiting and watching.

Last time I met up with H was 22 Dec. Last contact was 6 Jan (I text him for his b'day, he replied a week later, I didn't reply). We seem to be in a pattern of meetups ~2-3 months with very little communication in between. When we meet, he seems ambivalent and not detached (e.g. he was frustrated by my GAL plans), light convo is difficult for him. I don’t know if there is OW. Not once has he mentioned D (we can file early May).

The rule is do what works. So the $million question is: is this not working or is it not long enough? Do I need to experiment with a different approach? If so, what? I could use an outsiders perspective...