You need to remember that W is in a fog on top of MLC. She's lost in the mist like I was for 5 years. It will be a while before the mist dissipates and she'll, hopefully, gain some clarity at some point.
Until then, get the hell out of her way as much as possible. Although I am with you on the honesty part. Yet MLCers have trouble being honest or forthright. I should know because I wasn't transparent or truthful about my own XOW.
Originally Posted By: Jer2911
So basically, instead of allowing me (her partner) to develop healthy family bonding with her family members, she's been jealous all of these years of the healthy bonds that we have developed... Normal, healthy bonding that most people would WANT their partner/spouse to develop with their family members. Am I wrong about this?
That type of jealousy stems from insecurity that her family's affections might...gasp...switch out from her to you completely. Which as you probably know is a total falsehood and a faulty thought process that she's somehow internalized over time. Or it could be a sudden attack of re-writing your marital history.
It is her issue to work through herself. Absolutely has zero correlation to you or who you are. Families are a minefield enough and then you add to this mix a new partner/spouse. Oh boy! One messy spaghetti factory of clashing FOO issues.
