Had a long talk with my mom about this new issue re: possessiveness over W's family -- and now realize that this is a huge internal issue on her part (definitely not my fault at all) and probably something that stems from her childhood and growing up apart from her dad's side of the family... Wow... We've been together for nearly 10 years and I've never noticed this about her, nor has she ever expressed this to me... But what a HUGE issue on her part...

So basically, instead of allowing me (her partner) to develop healthy family bonding with her family members, she's been jealous all of these years of the healthy bonds that we have developed... Normal, healthy bonding that most people would WANT their partner/spouse to develop with their family members. Am I wrong about this?

Isn't it healthy to bond with your spouse's family? For you to be see as a sibling, child, cousin, etc.?

Or am I the one who has the unhealthy view on this?

Me 48, Her 50
(Same-Sex Couple)
3 Children
Together: 9.5 years before BD
BD: Week of 10/27/14
ExW started EA w OW 9/2014
ExW married OW 12/2015