This is why I love following your threads. I see a lot of myself in you two as well, except the genders are switched. The insight and self-work that is being done in your sitch is reaching out to others as well, and I want you to know that.
It struck me very hard as well to realize I had become like my father in relation to S5. I hated the childhood I had with my father. Once I realized that and began doing 180s, the relationship with S5 began improving dramatically. The same can be said for what you are doing here now. Keep improving and don't stop. I see and respect the deep soul-searching you are doing, susana, and you are killing it!
M: 8.5 T:10 Me:37 W:34 S:6
Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present