Complex #4 - D talk started / Detaching continues

[Complex]

W asked me to take her car to oil change tomorrow. She already made an apt.
Should I help her with that or just tell her she needs to take care by herself?

She just left telling me "going to work for a meeting", in shorts with a nice shirt and her hair pretty...doesnt make me feel very comfy, and concerns of OM are rising again. Either they are meeting to talk or eat or she really is going to work for a casual meeting but I know who is at work too who she wants to look good for. It's sickening to live with her not knowing sht. I felt well detached last few days, but every move of her like this is a throwback.

About involving family: I'm not planning on discussing things with them. But after so many months of lies I thing it's enough and they should at least know we are separated! And at some point I want them to know that I love them, and that I love W but that I won't be in the way of W's happiness. In general I just think it's time to put a stop on the lies! I'm sure W is afraid to justify herself in front of her F but it's about time she does.
Or will it just make her commit to D faster?