Her indecisiveness is just insane...and yes, I know...detach detach detach...but i am simply failing at that. She is literally all over the place, and I am letting myself get drug along for the ride. What do you guys suggest to not let this happen, but somehow keep the FaceTime convos and what not going?
I am going to quote a snippet from a psychology publication:
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So if the problem here is attachment, then how do you “detach”? The best way is to replace your ex with other people whom you care about and may assume the role of primary attachment figure. In other words, train yourself not to rely on your ex by spending more time with other supportive people in your life instead. For example, research shows that parents, siblings, friends, and children can all make excellent attachment figures.2 So, visit your family. Have lunch with an old friend. Remind yourself that your ex is not the only person in your life who you can feel close to, and you’ll find yourself needing her less and less.
In other words, GAL...again...GAL...it works.
Get involved with a church, volunteer group, your family, etc
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