Also said that she can't see herself going back to the relationship she had, and so on. Basically its tough to admit, but for them they are 'done' with us.
My W said that as well.
Originally Posted By: MCS
I feel for my W, she had to feel that way in order to do what she was doing with the A. I don't know, it seems like there's two things here that I've had to deal with
1) Wayward spouses say whatever is on their mind at the time, they are not thinking about the M (just OM) and we are thinking about it always. So, when we ask a question, its usually thought out by us and their response is how they feel that minute
Yeah. And this gives me some hope, because her exact quote was "right now I don't see myself going back". I hope to show her she won't be going back. But only time will tell.
Originally Posted By: MCS
2) We as LBS are trying to look at what we can hold onto for hope that this is not permanent. That's not a bad thing, but can lead us to overanalyzing everything
As far as MC goes, I've heard if there's an A; MC is pretty much useless. After I confronted W about OM, we've been going; but its been pretty much just talking logistics. Every time something emotional has come up; she tries and cancels. Well, just two weeks ago; we actually had a conversation and next thing I know; I'm back ten steps thinking that the solution is just around the corner. It stinks, but its normal, I guess
This is how I felt after both of my MC sessions. It seemed like we were making progress. We were talking and laughing together. We were also eating meals as a family, and even sat on the couch and watched a movie together. Then, MC and BOOM we barely spoke to each other for a few days.
So again I am learning that this takes time. My sister was almost a WAW with her husband and it took nearly 3 years for them to reconcile.
