Complex #4 - D talk started / Detaching continues

[Complex]

Susana:
By balance between acting loving and "standing tall" (Sry my English makes stuff confusing sometimes) I mean that of course I want W to be happy. So if I truly love her I have to let her go, right? Because I don't want to stand in the way of her happiness (if it really will make her happy-er is another question). On the other hand I want to a) protect my own heart from further harm, create boundaries of what I can accept for myself (eg how W treats me or lies to me) and b) stretch the D process to the fullest, which will most likely make W mad, so I may have a slight chance of W noticing my changes and starting to want to at least give it another shot of working on M or basically have the possibility of some feelings returning. And in my case also to put stress on R with OM (which right now I don't know what's going on, most likely they are in NC or low contact bc both decided they can't have a real R while W is still married).
Any other reasons I could think of?
And does that make sense or am I overthinking this?