Susana (2) - Learning to detach

[susana4]

Oh like me you have 1-3 months before greencard renewal. I thought it really is the gift of time too but believe me it won't make much of a difference in your sitch. Either way it's a much longer process of making a personal change for good and become the best Susana.
did you talk with him about dropping your rental and S for real? It is a big step, but the much bigger step is to file for D. Did he mention D yet? Do you guys even talk about a separated future?

It's a little weird in my situation, my visa is tied to my job, which I've been trying to leave for awhile (and which led to my anxiety & depression), I'm trying to join a new company but it needs to go through. The government here in the UK is quite vague about how long these things will take to go through.

Back at beginning of Jan, H had not spoken about S or what to do with the rental but it was weighing on my mind as our rental agreement was coming up for renewal (but landlord said we can stay without having to renew for a year), so I told him I wanted to stay here until I had an answer on my visa. He thought for a couple of weeks, then he said he understood and he agreed, but "once the visa comes through we will have to leave".

He said at BD and in the weeks following he wants a divorce, but I have no idea where he is on that or S since our chat at the beginning of Jan about the rental, because we don't have R talks EVER. I have been a good DBer since I started and I have never started a talk. But he hates conflict, so nor has he... He doesn't even make allusions. He just doesn't talk about the future, period.