Dude, we hear you, we all do, and all of us know exactly how you are feeling. I know that sounds impossible to you, but we really do. We have all been there.
You must trust me, when I say it will get better, but snooping will tear you apart. So stop it.
Your wife might say she will think about it, she won't. Don't try to make sense of it, you can't. You cannot reason with her, you cannot make see your side of story, so stop. You cannot nice her back, there is nothing you can say or do that will drive her back to you. Not one damned thing. So STOP!!!
You matter, focus on yourself, grow, find the Barry that Barry always wanted to be. Go out, get busy, go meet people, take some classes.
Dude, I am sorry to say, but in 95% of the cases there is another person somewhere. Just be prepared for it, so it does not bomb you again.
And no, you cannot do a damned thing about it! Even if you beat up the other guy, what would it help, you'd get arrested and the other guy would still be in the picture.
