Complex #4 - D talk started / Detaching continues

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Both. Tell her your preference (that she not get more involved), but understand and respect that she's a grown woman who will do what she will do.

That would basically be the "ok do whatever you think is right" and she will^^
Question is if it will benefit, harm or won't matter at all in the end.
It will fit sure cause that they know sth is wrong (if they don't know already) and start being cautious with invitations, talk to W, mayyybe approach me. I'm sure they will be shocked if D is on the table but most likely they will respect our privacy.

There's a mutual family friend of ours that I am very close with on a deeper level. He's a good, trustworthy person and I was thinking of opening up to him and tell him what's going on. He will for sure stay my friend for a long time no matter what happens. But he's also good friend of W's dad, although I trust him..at some point there might be information leaking, which might sonehow be a good thing too if I do it right and with the utmost of respect towards everyone...or not...I have no idea.
Who thinks it is ok to talk to him?