I don't think I did a good job Starsky of answering what actions I have done. For a long time I did all the things I am not supposed to do like intervention, telling both sets of parents etc. and I have made it quite clear I have zero desire to live in an open marriage. But actions? I certainly don't support the PA affair but I have not tried to lock her out of the house or kicked her out of our home or anything and I don't know what other actions to take to get this ball rolling???
Me:39 W:33 Married 6/07 D6 Found out about affair 9/14