Barry, the lesson you need to learn from all of that is to stay in your own sandbox. You can only control you. Trust me- I've been in your shoes. Early on, I recall sitting in my car in a parking lot outside of OM's neighborhood to see if W would go there. I even cruised by his house several times to see if W's car was there. It's only lately that I really started to realize (and accept) that we only control ourselves. You have to leave W to make her own decisions (good and bad).
