Mighty, I know it's difficult to turn off the mind reading, but you've go to get that rubber band on your wrist and keep snapping it. Mind reading only creates more stress and anxiety for you.
He may not be making decisions right now, but truthfully his is, i.e., indecision is a decision. He doesn't know which end is up and quite frankly, I would be a bit hesitant to have him wire anything in my home w/his brain the way it is right now. Leave him to his confused mess because there's nothing you can to do help him.
Live your life for you and be there for your children. You only have one life and it really isn't worth wasting one more minute of it on him. Peace is right around the corner...let him go.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
