Be firm and don't say too much. I've learned this lesson the hard way, actions always speak louder than words.

Thanks for the book tips Wonka.

Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15