I'm not sure why the WAS stays in contact with the ones they left. I will try to continue to decline but how do you do that nicely? How do you decline without screaming WHY??? What's the point? You wanted a D you got it. Now let me move on.
Based on the advice of vets, I sent the following message to decline the lunch invitation from my WAW. She seems to have gotten the clue, especially after I ignored a couple of random emails. "Yes, I suggest we don't meet for lunch. You've chosen to leave and now I need to reduce our contacts to move on. I'll continue to be cordial and to collaborate for all that relates to the kids."
I'm not sure why they want to keep in touch, but from reading around here, it seems to be considered temperature checking, to see if they can safely go further down their current road, while we wait for them. A related theory is that they seek reassurance or comfort from safe people, people who know them well. My WAW hinted at that when we met last week.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
