Hi Perter, found your message to drop by. Sure wish I could give you a good shot of ........something to encourage you. It sounds as if she keeps going around that same old mountain.

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Round and round the same old crap. She can't get past the past. Doesn't want any pressure. Wants time in isolation to gather her thoughts.


But she doesn't stay isolate, right? She takes a trip or spends time with friends, etc. you have thought more than once the A was over, only to discover she was still in contact with him. And as for her not getting over the past? She could if she want to, Peter. She does not want to turn lose of the resentment.

So, these are her issues b/c you have done all you know to do to help relieve the pressure at work, apologize for the past, give her space and time.......and yet, she is still giving you the same old b.s.

Yes, she will be more than a little pi$$ed that moved back while she was gone.

You say if she's not willing to R, you will move on. What if she doesn't you give you a simple yes or no answer? What if she falls back on the usual stuff she's used all these months? How do you see "moving on" then?

I don't blame you for taking your bed back, but she is going to be one mad mamma. She will probably blame for her having to go back to the RH. But then.....she blames you anyway, so..........

I think you have tried to pin her down to make a decision before, and it didn't happen. I hope it goes better this time around.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!