Sadie - Hot and Cold

[Sadie13]

Checking in. A small positive thing happened today!

I have been really trying hard at DB'ing, detaching, 37 rules, etc. I have been supportive of my H (noncritical) and trying some 180's. Just letting him do his own thing because, I want him to come back to me - but only if HE wants to.

We had kind of a lazy morning - he went to the living room to play on his phone. I would usually follow him out there to keep an eye on who he is texting. Today, instead, I got up, made him tea and toast quietly (he is sick so I also gave him some medicine), and took my coffee back to the bedroom and read a book. After about 15 minutes he came back to bed with me and stayed on the phone. I didn't pay attention, just kept reading. Later on I got up to make lunch, and where I would usually insist that he eat with me (I hate eating meals alone), when he said he wanted to shower first I just said ok and I went to eat and watch tv by myself. He came out to eat and started a conversation based on the program I was watching (a history thing) and then when he finished eating --

-- he got up, came over to me, hugged me from behind and tickled me because I said something teasing to him!!

I laughed and squirmed like he expected, but I didn't grab him back or try to hold onto him to prolong the hug like I usually would do. I feel like it's such a small thing that it can't possibly mean anything - but oh it gives me hope, it really does!