I get that you're in emotional pain after starving of intimacy from your own W.
Before you talk with W, I suggest that you read the Nonviolent Communication book by Marshall Rosenberg and The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships by Mali Apple and Joe Dunn.
These two books forced me to reflect on my values, my needs, and my worldview on what a healthy relationship looks like to me. It has opened up some avenues for me and changed my perspectives in some ways.
Mind you, I am not 100% in agreement with EVERYTHING that the Soulmate Experience authors say. However, there were some useful nuggets.
There's another book that I'm currently reading at the moment that has helped me reframe many things from my past, my present and my future path:
Intellectual Foreplay: Questions for Lovers and Lovers-To-Be by Eve Eschner Hogan with Steven Hogan
