I'm sleeping in my own bed tonight for the first time in over 2 months. It feels good. She's still away. May be back tomorrow. There will be much gnashing of teeth that I'm back in the house, as she had said a couple months ago that she needs time by herself.

Well she's had two months by herself, and I can't take it anymore, sleeping away from home every night. I still need to sleep at the RH Fridays and Saturdays, but I can handle that. At least I have some sense of home. And I am a homebody. It's one of my needs.

I'm not sure telling her I need X & Y or I'm moving on is right. That sounds like an ultimatum as it entails compliance to demands (meet my needs) and a threat (I'll leave). I disagree to the ultimatum tactic.

By me just saying I can no longer live in limbo. Let me know if you're willing to reconcile. It's more about me taking control of my life, not controlling hers. It doesn't matter which way she decides to answer: willing or unwilling. The only demand is that I need an answer one way or another. She must realize that which way she answers determine my path.

M: 59 W: 53
M: 9 yrs
T: 14 yrs
No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine)
W moved out 11/18/2013
D-Day 12/14/2013
W moved back home 12/1/2014