Yes, I was wondering about going for a slightly different angle - where you say to her - "how things have been with us recently - examples....this isn't working for me. I need X and Y. I really need you to think about whether you can do this, because I can't do it in this way any more. And I'm moving on unless this changes.."

Is it more powerful to say it this way?

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus