Whatever I'm doing doesn't seem to be working very well.

I guess I don't see it as being nice, more friendly and courteous. I dont ask about what shes up to or anything like that. I'm positive in tone especially about the kids and will occassionaly wish her well or say something affirmative or appreciative. I guess I should drop that side and be solely functional.

There are people I work with who I really dislike but I still say hello, ask after their families etc.

Part of it though is that I worry if I get more cold and mirror her on this I will leave more space for my anger to grow or come out.

Last edited by jim0987; 02/08/15 08:47 PM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress