In this case what i've done is effectively say to wife 'oh look a hornets nest'. Having said that i'm really not someone to put next to a big red button marked 'do not push'

So mentioning it had a couple of objectives,
- I've acknowledged it without having to engage SIL
- I would like to know if W does feel like SIL describes (I'm 99% certain she does but i would like her to say it).
- Its a slight release for my mr fixit in the sense this ball is now with wife
- and if wife didnt know (reasonably likely) then she should. SIL has never done anything altruistic in her life.

we will never talk about it though, i can barely get my wife to discuss kids medical things let alone something bordering into relationship territory.


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress