In this case what i've done is effectively say to wife 'oh look a hornets nest'. Having said that i'm really not someone to put next to a big red button marked 'do not push'
So mentioning it had a couple of objectives, - I've acknowledged it without having to engage SIL - I would like to know if W does feel like SIL describes (I'm 99% certain she does but i would like her to say it). - Its a slight release for my mr fixit in the sense this ball is now with wife - and if wife didnt know (reasonably likely) then she should. SIL has never done anything altruistic in her life.
we will never talk about it though, i can barely get my wife to discuss kids medical things let alone something bordering into relationship territory.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress