The END Hopefully they live happily ever after....

[Complex]

It's a common reaction of WAS to get very curious when they notice you are finally moving on with your life without them.
You seem to be very firm with your decision so far which validates for him that you are done and he starts to question his decision once again.
But you've been through this before, but I'd recommend to continue declining.
When will your D be final?
It's a good way of thinking that your old M is dead. Because it is.
Reconciliation is a very very long process. I read it here over and over again.
If you reconcile you want it to be for good, and that requires full commitment on both sides. And that requires a lottttt of work.

But like everyone else said, you need to detach, which is the hardest part of all. You need to become yourself again. And so does he. You live in a stressful situation and it's hard to see the light and breathe. Especially with your kids involved, that just makes it so sad...and I personally don't know how that changes things in the process.

Keep declining and stay NC for now.
There are people in here that will for sure have a good advice what to do before your D is final.
I'll pray for you that you'll stay strong and become a better person out of this no matter what. And I'll pray for your kids too that they will become better people through this and won't suffer too bad. They need a strong mom!
Hang in there!