No doubt some fear-induced spew is coming. If there's ever a time to STFU, it's now.
Whether spew comes, or not, can you remain calm through her ordeal? It is extremely important that you are the strong, silent partner. If her health really is a priority, then do not allow emotions about the marital problems pull you into another tantrum. Show her you can handle this. Both of you can.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
