Devastated Husband; Need Advice...Part 2

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Well havent left yet, have a couple hours left but just journaling/venting.

As I mentioned, my W was going to go to this internship in Maryland for 3 months, and she's been back and forth on it...well in typical indecisive fashion...she drove 6 hours and then stopped, and turned around and drove 6 hours back. So she didnt go. We talked for hours on the phone today, just BSing for the most part, but we did hit on the M a few times...bottom line, W said when she left she envisioned all this differently and now she literally has no plan..no job, no internship, nothing. She has nothing going for her as far as what she wants to do. But, I pushed it a little bit, and in the end told her that We (the dogs and I) miss her, and asked her if she missed us. (Yea, I know, shouldn't have done that). She didnt answer really, just implied that I should know not to ask her those questions because she doesn't want to talk about it. We got off the phone shortly after.

So...I feel bummed. W said she knows that she's always welcome here in TX. But I don't feel like theres really any plan right now to come home. I feel like Im back at square one, where W doesn't know what she's doing still. But now her plan, as she admits, has fallen through. She doesn't have anything she originally wanted or thought she was going to get/do when she first left. So now Im wondering...NOW WHAT. But she doesn't know either. So...shes gonna continue to stay at OM's apartment and look for a job again? Go to school? She told me a few days ago, that she was leaving his place. Either when she got her new job or the internship. Now the job turned her down, and she turned down the internship halfway there. She has NO plan....at all.

I will say that she noticed one of my 180s...I was very calm and collected when she told me about her sudden indecision not to go to this internship halfway through her drive and was very supportive. She asked me why I was so ok with it, and told me how she was scared to tell me because she's usually scared to tell me these things because I used to get mad. But I responded very calmly and supported her decision because if its not what she wants to do then its not what she wants so I hope she finds something she wants to do.

But for me, I don't know what to do anymore. Im trying to look at the positives and that my W is escalating our convos to FaceTime now and calls everyday, and maybe now that she has no plan it'll shock her into wondering what she actually had and why she left? But then again, she is so indecisive as you guys can see now...That I wonder when she will ever figure her [censored] out. She admits she's not really happy where she is, that things are just falling through for her...but am I really gonna have to redo the past 4 months because now she has nothing going for her and is starting over herself? Im wondering if its positive that now her initial plan fell through?

Anyone else in this situation? or any advice? I don't know anyone on this forum whose W calls multiple times a day just to talk. I don't always answer, but its very clear she wants some emotional connection...It seems like things are going positive but it doesn't feel right? Her indecisiveness is just insane...and yes, I know...detach detach detach...but i am simply failing at that. She is literally all over the place, and I am letting myself get drug along for the ride. What do you guys suggest to not let this happen, but somehow keep the FaceTime convos and what not going?