Don't worry about what she wants. Or the "last thing" she wants. She is probably scared sh!tless right now (but might not show it).
I know this must scare - or at least rattle - her. (I've been there; thankfully, mine was deemed benign after a biopsy.) It can be an eye-opening experience, to be sure.
She needs you. Even if she doesn't say it.
Time to rise and shine, Rzr. You're the one. BE the one.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014