Detaching and giving space definitely seems to be the best way forward. I was really scared of doing it at first for fear it might accelerate W's withdrawal, but it seems to have got her attention and I too had a very interesting conv w/W today. Things were said I wouldn't have believed I'd ever hear even just a week ago. Not going to start assuming anything, and I still think there's not much hope for me, but I just want to validate your strategy here.... if anything is going to work, then detachment and 180s are IT!!
