Susana (2) - Learning to detach

[susana4]

Hi. Just chimeing in on over analysing , imagine your R is planet. It's way off into space , all around are small insignificant stars , stars like , he's cals you darling , strokes your hair , cuddles you, etc. if he wants to work on R you will see the planet clearly all the rest are stars that you can analyse either way. He's calling you darling because he loves you or he's calling you darling because he feels guilty for not loving you. I'm sure you get what I mean Until you see the planet the stars will only confuse you and drive you mad with the analysis

I speak from experience. My W calls and text me everyday, will call me sweetheart , tells me our M was good ( mostly ) and tells me I'm a great father. It's all nice but just stars. She lives 20k away and is not coming home. It's a simple thing to explain but hard to put into practice. Stars

Hope you don't mind me posting and you take this as its intended. Take care. Rd

Hi RD, of course I don't mind! thanks for your post. I think I understand what you're saying. But I get a bit confused about how we are supposed to measure results (according to DR) and also not overanalyse, and detach? Some times it seems contradictory to me to detach and not think about what they are doing, but also measure results...