It is really yet another case of reframing. Whatever works for you in the circumstances. Of course there is no guarrantee that this will last for W and the contrary that it is temporary.
What type of OM wants to be with a W who is still living with her H even if she says she is S? Either a desperate one and W will get bored or an OM who is a seducer. I suspect W may be on a power high seducing the once big boss.
Sounds like flannel to me " you are beautiful" like a bad pick up line in a pub after the last order bell has sounded. On the lines of "you are an angel when did you fall from heaven?"
H uses these all the time, makes me smile.
I am glad you are calling W on her lie, but expect spew and rehearse for it. We DBers can help you do this if you need to. Forewarned is fore armed.
For instance
W: why did you tell my children I was dating? That is not your job?
Or do you say something first?
The children asked me where you were going and so I told them on a date. One of my boundaries W is that I will be honest with our children.
What will be your reply to put in a boundary and close down any argument? IC help may be important to you to decide exactly what you want OD.
In the meanwhile there is no reason why you need an excuse for V Day. Just a statement that you are away and no explanation In my book.
Oh W, have I mentioned that I am away next weekend? No W, I am away next weekend as I have plans. Yes I heard you W, but I am away. I shall be back xxxx.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 02/07/1507:07 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
