KGirl - letting the past go

[KGirl]

Yes, I think for me it's just more getting to know people, seeing what is out there, maybe reassuring myself that there ARE good people out there and I WILL find someone in time. I am totally not ready for the physical aspect of dating which makes me think maybe I'm not ready. Several of my friends who are now married or with long-term spouses slept w/ their partners on their third date. And they hadn't known the other person at all before dating, it was either set up through friends or via the internet! That sounds terrifying. So I guess I'm open to some aspects of it, but not others.

So this guy and the friend I met him through hung out together this week. I asked him about it and if the guy was still single. He texted back "Sort of. He's been on a few dates but I'm not sure if he's actually dating anyone." For some reason that makes me feel like I may have missed my chance, even though he could very well not be dating anyone. I'm also not sure why my friends aren't more positive or encouraging about this. I've made it very clear I'm interested, have asked if they would invite him sometime when we go do something together, asked for help in connecting us, etc. I've been very clear and direct about it. And yet they skirt around it, or don't seem encouraging, like in the message above. I don't get it, and it takes me to all these mind-reading places ("Do they not think he's a good guy and don't want me to hang out with him? Do they think it's inappropriate for me to date when I'm still M and therefore aren't helping me?") etc. Maybe I just need to make a move on my own...