Moving On - LisaB

[LisaB]

Hi friends! Thanks so much for checking in and offering the great tips and ideas.

When can you guys file in your state? I guess 12 months less 28 days is my next big milestone - H may let his intentions be know around then (beginning May). In the meantime I intend to keep doing what I have been doing.

Well, this is where my situation is a bit different from others on this site. We called ourselves married but technically had a registered partnership. Where I live this offers basically the same rights as a marriage but is much easier to get out of it seems. All you have to do is file simple papers at the government office. We did that when we moved, as part of the partnership requires sharing living quarters. So when we changed our addresses we changed our status as well. Technically we are already "divorced" and there was not really any discussion about it. We had an agreement about financials and that sort of thing but it has all been worked out as per the agreement. It was done in the very early days as we both moved right away.

So, there will be no need for the next milestone I guess.

Wow - where did those months go? The first few seemed to take years, but I swear the last few have passed in the blink of an eye, don't you think?

So true! I guess at first it is so dramatic and then you start to get used to it and time passes by...

Ive decided to do a little more reading recently. That helped me in the early stages and I haven't done any for a while. I've just ordered Jim Conway's MLC book. I'm not sure if H is having an MLC, but I figure I may as well cover all the bases!

Good tip Toots! And thank you for your supportive words. I have read many of the recommended books but I am sure I can find a few more that might help me with my muddled head. Maybe deeper understanding and introspection would be helpful.
I have to say that reading on here and other places about MLC has really helped me see how my H's wacky behaviors are not unique and to be able to let it go a little bit instead of dwelling on the confusion.

Thanks Karma and Stacey for the words of support.

I've been feeling a little better about the OWs since I vented above. I guess I really have to see that he is not at his best right now, and if they want him when he is a mess then they can have him. He's the type to chase after a fantasy and not realize that everyone sh*ts, as they say. While I think the OWs he is chasing after are nice girls with a lot going for them, they are also the types who post selfies all day long. Get a life girls. Isn't there something else to photograph than you looking surprised or making a kissy face? I know this is normal with the youth of today but doesn't it show something like narcissism to not see anything worth capturing and sharing other than your own pretty face?

Sometimes I fight back with my own sexy selfies but ultimately it just feels self-centered. Can be good Facebook fodder to show yourself looking hot and doing good once in a while I suppose.

How did I get on this rant? No idea.

Have a good day my friends!
Lisa A1